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Swingers, Polyamorists, and the Politics of Pleasure
Why do swingers often lean conservative while polyamorous folks lean liberal? Let's explore the cultural and generational roots of the divide — and how compassion and curiosity can bridge it.

Cat Ferris
1 day ago5 min read


When Limerence Meets Non-Monogamy
A raw and honest reflection on navigating limerence within ethical non-monogamy.

Cat Ferris
4 days ago3 min read


Embodied Art: Reflections on a Night of Food, Reverence, and Connection
At the Sex Down South conference, I experienced a modern reimagining of nyotaimori — the Japanese art of serving food from the human body. This reflection explores food play, embodiment, consent, and the transformation of pleasure into ritual. Discover how reverence and intention can turn sensuality into healing art.

Cat Ferris
Oct 232 min read


I Have Always Been a Wild Creature
I make love like an octopus.
(Emotionally, metaphorically… not literally. Probably.)

Cat Ferris
Jul 172 min read


Why the Slow Burn Might Be the Real Spark
( Inspired by The IKEA Effect in Dating , Psychology Today ) I recently read a Psychology Today article about the “IKEA effect” in...

Cat Ferris
Jul 132 min read


The Test Was Wrong. The Shame Was Not
I wasn’t worried when I got my latest STI screening.
I hadn't had any new unprotected partners since my last test. I trusted my body, my practices, my relationship agreements. I trusted the systems I had carefully put in place to protect my health.

Cat Ferris
Jun 244 min read


Fantasy, Interrupted
How conflicting roles can block our erotic expression—and what to do about it I went to Club Kink Jacksonville this past weekend. I was...

Cat Ferris
Jun 243 min read


Not a Service, but a Ritual: The Ephemeral Art of Sacred Sensuality
I’ve come to see my sacred sensuality sessions as a kind of improvised art—one that exists only for a moment, but leaves a lasting imprint. This is a glimpse into the ritual, the rhythm, and the remembering.

Cat Ferris
Jun 112 min read


Making Love to the Camera: How Erotic Play Helped Me Reclaim My Body
Photography Credit: JC Stark Photo So much of my work—and my personal mission—is rooted in body positivity. Every day, I’m in the...

Cat Ferris
May 113 min read


The Cost of Being Looked At
A reflection on beauty, power, and the fear of fading Photographer: Rain Kessler Photography Beauty is a Currency—Whether We Want It to...

Cat Ferris
Apr 135 min read


Why Empathy Is Harder in Relationships (And How to Cultivate It Anyway)
Empathy is one of those beautiful, aspirational qualities we all strive for—until we actually need to practice it with the person we love...

Cat Ferris
Mar 24 min read


Beyond the Binary: My Polyamorous Dating Journey
Dating as a married woman comes with its own set of challenges. Add polyamory into the mix, and things get even more interesting. My...

Cat Ferris
Feb 163 min read
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