Frequently Asked Questions

This page answers common questions about my work, boundaries, and approach. If you don’t see your question here, feel free to reach out.

About My Practice

What kind of work do you offer?

I offer embodied, intimacy-focused coaching that integrates somatic awareness, nervous system regulation, relational skills, and conscious exploration of desire.

My work is experiential and relational. Depending on the container, sessions may include conversation, body-based practices, touch, flirtation, or erotic energy — always within clear, ethical boundaries.

Is this therapy?

No. I am not a licensed therapist, and this work is not psychotherapy, mental health treatment, or crisis care. I do not diagnose or treat mental illness.

Many clients work with me alongside a licensed therapist, and I see these supports as complementary rather than interchangeable.

What’s the difference between sex therapy and sex coaching?

Sex therapy is provided by licensed clinicians and focuses on diagnosing and treating mental health or sexual health concerns.

Sex coaching is not clinical. Coaching focuses on embodiment, skill-building, relational patterns, and lived experience. Rather than working from a diagnostic framework, we work with what’s happening in real time — in your body, nervous system, and relationships.

How do you handle consent and boundaries?

Consent is foundational to everything I do. We move slowly, communicate clearly, and check in often. You are always free to change your mind, adjust boundaries, pause, or stop an exercise at any time.

“No,” “not right now,” and “let’s slow down” are always respected.

Is this sex work?

Some aspects of my work (particularly Neo-Tantra) overlap with the broader category of intimacy and erotic labor. It is not full-service sex work, and it is not performative or on demand.

There is no genital stimulation, no sexual performance, and no expectation of arousal or release. The work is relational, process-oriented, and grounded in consent and presence.

If you’re unsure about fit, we talk about it openly before beginning.

Why do discovery calls have to be on Zoom?

A discovery call is more than a chance to discuss scheduling and logistics. It's an opportunity for us to meet, talk about what you're hoping to get out of our work together, and determine whether I'm the right person to support you.

Because my work focuses on embodiment, relationships, intimacy, and communication, I pay attention to much more than words alone. Body language, facial expressions, pacing, energy, and other nonverbal cues often tell me just as much as what someone says. Being able to see one another helps me better understand your goals, your concerns, and how I might best support you.

It also gives you a chance to get a feel for me. Choosing an intimacy coach is a personal decision, and I want you to have a genuine sense of who I am, how I show up, and whether my approach feels like a good fit for you.

And while we're at it: please don't take your discovery call while driving.

I know life gets busy, but these conversations tend to be more meaningful when you're somewhere private, comfortable, and able to give the conversation your full attention. If we're talking about relationships, sexuality, vulnerability, or personal growth, I'd rather have ten focused minutes than thirty distracted ones.

For these reasons, discovery calls are conducted via Zoom with cameras on whenever possible.

Somatic Coaching

What is somatic coaching?

Somatic coaching focuses on the body as a source of information and wisdom. Rather than only talking about experiences, we work with sensation, breath, posture, movement, emotional responses, and nervous system regulation in real time.

What does a somatic coaching session look like?

Sessions often begin with conversation and attunement — noticing what’s present emotionally and in the nervous system. Together, we identify a growing edge for the session.

From there, we may move into experiential practices aligned with that edge. These might include body awareness, breath, movement, relational exercises, flirtation, or conscious exploration of erotic energy — depending on what’s appropriate and consented to that day.

Do you work with couples and non-monogamous clients?

Yes. I work with individuals, couples, and people in both traditional and alternative relationship structures. Confidentiality and boundaries are clearly discussed and respected in all configurations.

Do you plan sessions in advance?

Not rigidly.

Bodies and nervous systems have different capacities day to day. Rather than forcing a predetermined agenda, we work with what’s actually present.

Some sessions focus on skill-building, others on nervous system regulation, de-shaming, boundary practice, or relational awareness.

Is somatic coaching flirtatious or sensual?

It can be.

Somatic coaching may include flirtation, play, seduction techniques, or working with erotic energy — always intentionally and with consent. These are tools for awareness and confidence, not performance or gratification.

What are the physical boundaries in somatic coaching?

Somatic coaching has clear physical boundaries:

Clothes always stay on
There is no genital contact
There is no sexual touch

Some exercises may involve movement, posture, proximity, or non-sexual touch, depending on consent and container — but sexual contact is not part of somatic coaching.

How long does somatic coaching take?

There is no required timeline.

Most clients who experience meaningful progress work with me consistently for three to six months. Consistency might look like weekly or bi-weekly sessions.

After that, many clients transition to periodic or as-needed sessions.

How often do I need to come in?

You decide.

I will never dictate how often you should attend. That said, clients who commit to a regular coaching container tend to see more progress than those who come sporadically.

Can I talk about taboo or socially uncomfortable desires?

Yes. This work is grounded in the understanding that desire is not the same as behavior. You are welcome to speak honestly about fantasies, intrusive thoughts, shame, or internal conflict without fear of judgment.

The only limit is safety: I cannot keep a secret that would place a vulnerable person at risk of harm.

What if feelings or attraction develop?

This is a normal part of relational and embodied work.

We don’t avoid these experiences — we work with them consciously as information. Professional boundaries remain intact at all times.

Can this turn into dating or a personal relationship?

No.

The coaching relationship remains a professional container. I do not date or pursue romantic or sexual relationships with clients.

Cuddle Therapy

What is cuddle therapy?

Cuddle therapy is a structured, consensual practice of non-sexual, nurturing touch designed to support nervous system regulation, comfort, and connection.

Is cuddle therapy sexual?

No. Cuddle therapy is strictly non-sexual. It does not include erotic touch, sexual stimulation, or sexualized interaction.

What happens during a cuddle therapy session?

Each session begins with a conversation about boundaries and comfort. From there, we engage in non-sexual touch such as holding, spooning, hand-holding, or stillness together — always based on your consent and preferences.

What should I wear?

Comfortable, relaxed clothing — similar to yoga or lounging at home. Some clients prefer more skin-to-skin contact; others prefer more coverage. Both are welcome.

What if I feel uncomfortable during a session?

You can change positions, adjust boundaries, take a break, or end the session at any time. You never need to explain or justify a “no.”

Neo-Tantra

What is Neo-Tantra?

Traditional Tantra refers to a diverse family of spiritual traditions that originated in India and viewed the body—not as an obstacle to enlightenment—but as a potential path toward the sacred. While many people associate Tantra exclusively with sexuality, traditional Tantra encompasses a much broader range of practices, philosophies, and spiritual teachings.

At its heart, Tantra is a collection of spiritual traditions that viewed the body not as something to overcome, but as a potential doorway to the sacred.

Neo-Tantra emerged in the West during the 20th century, drawing inspiration from certain tantric concepts while blending them with modern psychology, embodiment practices, relationship skills, and sexuality education. While traditional Tantra is a spiritual path, Neo-Tantra is often used as a framework for cultivating presence, intimacy, self-awareness, pleasure, and connection.

My approach to Neo-Tantra is grounded in consent, communication, embodiment, and nervous system awareness. Rather than focusing on achieving a particular spiritual experience, I help clients develop a deeper relationship with their bodies, desires, boundaries, and capacity for connection.

Is Neo-Tantra a form of massage?

No. I am not a licensed massage therapist, and Neo-Tantra sessions are not massage sessions.

While touch is often an important part of the work, it is used as a tool for cultivating awareness, presence, connection, and embodiment rather than for therapeutic bodywork. Many people describe Neo-Tantra as a form of touch-based meditation or erotic meditation—a practice of bringing mindful attention to sensation, pleasure, boundaries, and connection.

It's also worth noting that Neo-Tantra is practiced differently by different facilitators. Some practitioners offer yoni (vulva) or lingam (penis) massage as part of their work. My practice does not include genital stimulation, sexual release, or erotic services.

My approach is best described as a form of Pink Tantra, focusing on mindful touch, sensuality, communication, and embodied awareness within clearly defined boundaries.

While every facilitator brings their own style to the work, I sometimes refer to my approach as Resonant Flow Tantra—a body-centered, movement-informed practice that emphasizes attunement, presence, connection, and the body's natural response to touch, breath, sensation, music, and movement.

Influenced by embodied awareness practices, Taoist energy work, Reiki principles, and movement-based exploration, Resonant Flow Tantra encourages curiosity, responsiveness, and deep listening to what is arising in the moment rather than following a rigid sequence of techniques.

What kind of breathwork will we be doing?

Breath is an important part of many Neo-Tantra practices, but my approach is intentionally flexible rather than highly prescriptive.

Some tantric traditions and modern breathwork modalities place significant emphasis on specific breathing techniques, rhythms, or patterns. While these practices can be valuable in certain contexts, I've found that not every breathing technique is suitable for every body. Factors such as anxiety, trauma history, physical health, and individual nervous system differences can all influence how a person responds to a particular practice.

Rather than asking everyone to breathe the same way, I may offer suggestions and invite exploration while encouraging you to pay attention to your own experience. Together, we'll find a breathing style that feels supportive, sustainable, and safe for your body.

I view the body less as something to be controlled and more as something to be listened to. Through touch, breath, movement, music, and mindful attention, we explore what helps your body find greater resonance, connection, pleasure, and presence.

Rather than asking your body to conform to a particular method, the goal is to discover what creates a sense of flow, aliveness, and connection within your own experience.

My goal isn't to create an altered state of consciousness or chase a peak experience. I'm more interested in helping you develop greater awareness of your body, your sensations, your emotions, and your patterns. Sometimes that happens through a deep breath. Sometimes it happens through a sigh, a pause, or simply noticing what's already there.

As with all aspects of my practice, your comfort, consent, and nervous system wellbeing take priority over following any particular technique.

Do I need any prior experience with tantra?

Not at all.

Many of my Neo-Tantra clients have never attended a tantra workshop, taken a class, or explored these practices before.

Everyone begins with Level 1, which focuses on building awareness, communication, consent, and connection to sensation. From there, we can gradually explore more advanced practices based on your interests, goals, and comfort level.

There is never any pressure to move faster than feels right for you.