Frequently Asked Questions
This page answers common questions about my work, boundaries, and approach. If you don’t see your question here, feel free to reach out.
About My Practice
What kind of work do you offer?
I offer embodied, intimacy-focused coaching that integrates somatic awareness, nervous system regulation, relational skills, and conscious exploration of desire.
​My work is experiential and relational. Depending on the container, sessions may include conversation, body-based practices, touch, flirtation, or erotic energy — always within clear, ethical boundaries.
Is this therapy?
No. I am not a licensed therapist, and this work is not psychotherapy, mental health treatment, or crisis care. I do not diagnose or treat mental illness.
Many clients work with me alongside a licensed therapist, and I see these supports as complementary rather than interchangeable.
What’s the difference between sex therapy and sex coaching?
Sex therapy is provided by licensed clinicians and focuses on diagnosing and treating mental health or sexual health concerns.
Sex coaching is not clinical. Coaching focuses on embodiment, skill-building, relational patterns, and lived experience. Rather than working from a diagnostic framework, we work with what’s happening in real time — in your body, nervous system, and relationships.
How do you handle consent and boundaries?
Consent is foundational to everything I do. We move slowly, communicate clearly, and check in often. You are always free to change your mind, adjust boundaries, pause, or stop an exercise at any time.
“No,” “not right now,” and “let’s slow down” are always respected.
Is this sex work?
Some aspects of my work (particularly Neo-Tantra) overlap with the broader category of intimacy and erotic labor. It is not full-service sex work, and it is not performative or on demand.
There is no genital stimulation, no sexual performance, and no expectation of arousal or release. The work is relational, process-oriented, and grounded in consent and presence.
If you’re unsure about fit, we talk about it openly before beginning.
Somatic Coaching
What is somatic coaching?
Somatic coaching focuses on the body as a source of information and wisdom. Rather than only talking about experiences, we work with sensation, breath, posture, movement, emotional responses, and nervous system regulation in real time.
What does a somatic coaching session look like?
Sessions often begin with conversation and attunement — noticing what’s present emotionally and in the nervous system. Together, we identify a growing edge for the session.
From there, we may move into experiential practices aligned with that edge. These might include body awareness, breath, movement, relational exercises, flirtation, or conscious exploration of erotic energy — depending on what’s appropriate and consented to that day.
Do you work with couples and non-monogamous clients?
Yes. I work with individuals, couples, and people in both traditional and alternative relationship structures. Confidentiality and boundaries are clearly discussed and respected in all configurations.
Do you plan sessions in advance?
Not rigidly.
Bodies and nervous systems have different capacities day to day. Rather than forcing a predetermined agenda, we work with what’s actually present.
Some sessions focus on skill-building, others on nervous system regulation, de-shaming, boundary practice, or relational awareness.
Is somatic coaching flirtatious or sensual?
It can be.
Somatic coaching may include flirtation, play, seduction techniques, or working with erotic energy — always intentionally and with consent. These are tools for awareness and confidence, not performance or gratification.
What are the physical boundaries in somatic coaching?
Somatic coaching has clear physical boundaries:
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Clothes always stay on
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There is no genital contact
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There is no sexual touch
Some exercises may involve movement, posture, proximity, or non-sexual touch, depending on consent and container — but sexual contact is not part of somatic coaching.
How long does somatic coaching take?
There is no required timeline.
Most clients who experience meaningful progress work with me consistently for three to six months. Consistency might look like weekly or bi-weekly sessions.
After that, many clients transition to periodic or as-needed sessions.
How often do I need to come in?
You decide.
I will never dictate how often you should attend. That said, clients who commit to a regular coaching container tend to see more progress than those who come sporadically.
Can I talk about taboo or socially uncomfortable desires?
Yes. This work is grounded in the understanding that desire is not the same as behavior. You are welcome to speak honestly about fantasies, intrusive thoughts, shame, or internal conflict without fear of judgment.
The only limit is safety: I cannot keep a secret that would place a vulnerable person at risk of harm.
What if feelings or attraction develop?
This is a normal part of relational and embodied work.
We don’t avoid these experiences — we work with them consciously as information. Professional boundaries remain intact at all times.
Can this turn into dating or a personal relationship?
No.
The coaching relationship remains a professional container. I do not date or pursue romantic or sexual relationships with clients.
Cuddle Therapy
What is cuddle therapy?
Cuddle therapy is a structured, consensual practice of non-sexual, nurturing touch designed to support nervous system regulation, comfort, and connection.
Is cuddle therapy sexual?
No. Cuddle therapy is strictly non-sexual. It does not include erotic touch, sexual stimulation, or sexualized interaction.
What happens during a cuddle therapy session?
Each session begins with a conversation about boundaries and comfort. From there, we engage in non-sexual touch such as holding, spooning, hand-holding, or stillness together — always based on your consent and preferences.
What should I wear?
Comfortable, relaxed clothing — similar to yoga or lounging at home. Some clients prefer more skin-to-skin contact; others prefer more coverage. Both are welcome.
What if I feel uncomfortable during a session?
You can change positions, adjust boundaries, take a break, or end the session at any time. You never need to explain or justify a “no.”