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The Bromance Beneath the Fantasy: What Buddy Baiting and Cuckolding Reveal About Male Intimacy
What if group masturbation and cuckolding aren’t just about sex, but about men craving intimacy and connection with each other? A look at the deeper emotional undercurrents behind these misunderstood kinks.

Cat Ferris
Oct 293 min read
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Embodied Art: Reflections on a Night of Food, Reverence, and Connection
At the Sex Down South conference, I experienced a modern reimagining of nyotaimori — the Japanese art of serving food from the human body. This reflection explores food play, embodiment, consent, and the transformation of pleasure into ritual. Discover how reverence and intention can turn sensuality into healing art.

Cat Ferris
Oct 232 min read
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When Romance is a Kink: The Magic of Comet Relationships
In polyamory circles, there’s a term for a certain kind of connection that burns bright and beautiful without becoming part of everyday...

Cat Ferris
Aug 232 min read
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I Have Always Been a Wild Creature
I make love like an octopus.
(Emotionally, metaphorically… not literally. Probably.)

Cat Ferris
Jul 172 min read
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Chocolate Sauce & Chaos: My Erotic Ice Cream Fantasy
Food play, filth, and the fine art of sticky surrender.

Cat Ferris
Jul 123 min read
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Fantasy, Interrupted
How conflicting roles can block our erotic expression—and what to do about it I went to Club Kink Jacksonville this past weekend. I was...

Cat Ferris
Jun 243 min read
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Power & Kink Eroticism: The Thrill of Control, Surrender, and Sacred Risk
Exploring the Core Desire of Dominance, Devotion, and Transgressive Trust Our erotic blueprints are as unique as fingerprints. Your Core...

Cat Ferris
Jun 93 min read
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Making Love to the Camera: How Erotic Play Helped Me Reclaim My Body
Photography Credit: JC Stark Photo So much of my work—and my personal mission—is rooted in body positivity. Every day, I’m in the...

Cat Ferris
May 113 min read
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Ask the Sex Coach: How Can I Explore Kink with Responsive Desire and High Brakes?
I recently launched my "Ask the Sex Coach" Â series on Instagram, where I answer your real, unfiltered questions about intimacy,...

Cat Ferris
Mar 134 min read
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Beyond the Binary: My Polyamorous Dating Journey
Dating as a married woman comes with its own set of challenges. Add polyamory into the mix, and things get even more interesting. My...

Cat Ferris
Feb 163 min read
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Have You Ever Made Love to a Ghost?
The Future of Sensation: Exploring New Dimensions of Pleasure I just had one of the most surreal sexual experiences of my life at the...

Cat Ferris
Oct 30, 20242 min read
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The Beauty and Discomfort of Shibari
In this exploration of vulnerability, trust, and self-awareness, shibari is a reminder that intimacy, like art, isn’t always easy. But...

Cat Ferris
Oct 1, 20244 min read
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Unveiling Tantra: A Journey Through Spiritual, Sensual, and Sacred Spaces
Tantra. Just the word itself evokes curiosity, and often, a sense of mystery. Yet, when people talk about Tantra, they're usually...

Cat Ferris
Sep 6, 20244 min read
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The Path to Sexual Fulfillment
Note: This article is adapted from the book "Coming Together" by sexologists (and my mentors) Danielle Harel, Ph.D and Celeste...

Cat Ferris
Jul 21, 20243 min read
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Embracing Your Sexuality
As a board-certified sexologist, many of my clients seek help resolving specific challenges in their sex lives, such as low desire,...

Cat Ferris
Jun 30, 20242 min read
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Exploring Darker Desires
Content Warning: this essay mentions sensitive topics including incest, age play, and rape. "The erotic mind is not rational, nor is it...

Cat Ferris
Jun 2, 20243 min read
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The Allure of "Daddy" Sex Appeal: Breaking Taboos and Exploring Desires
From my young adult years onwards, if you asked anyone who's known me, they'd likely spill the beans about my penchant for older men....

Cat Ferris
Nov 28, 20233 min read
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The Sublime Pleasures of Hot Wax
Festivals are incredible spaces where people from diverse backgrounds gather to celebrate their passions, hobbies, and interests....

Cat Ferris
Oct 10, 20232 min read
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Melting
I ache to get lost inside of you With one touch of your hand against my skin my corporeal self dissolves My body melts away dripping like...

Cat Ferris
Oct 9, 20231 min read
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Unlocking Passion and Connection: Embark on a Journey with a Sex Coach
People might seek the guidance of a sex coach for a variety of reasons, as sex coaching goes beyond just physical aspects and can...

Cat Ferris
Aug 29, 20232 min read
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