Hi. I'm Cat
Educator. Sexologist. Coach.
I believe that many of our greatest challenges (and greatest opportunities for growth) show up in our relationships, our sexuality, and the way we relate to ourselves. Through coaching, education, and embodied practice, I help people navigate those spaces with greater curiosity, confidence, and self-compassion.
The Journey That Brought Me Here
I didn't set out to become a sexologist.
For more than twenty years, I worked in the insurance industry as an educator, writer, and trainer. I loved helping people make sense of complicated ideas and spent much of my career translating complex topics into something practical and accessible. Outside of work, I was equally driven—running marathons, competing in bodybuilding competitions, and always chasing the next goal.
By most measures, I was successful. I had built a career, a family, and a life that looked good on paper.
But beneath all of that achievement was a growing feeling that I was disconnected from something important. I had spent years learning how to accomplish things, but very little time learning how to listen to myself. What did I actually want? What brought me joy? What made me feel fully alive?
At the time, I didn't know those questions would change the course of my life. I only knew that I could no longer ignore them.
When Everything Changed
Like many people, the pandemic forced me to slow down in ways I never had before.
For years, I had poured my energy into work, achievement, and taking care of everyone around me. When the world suddenly became quieter, I found myself face-to-face with questions I had spent years avoiding. The burnout I had been carrying could no longer be ignored. Neither could my depression.
What followed was one of the most difficult (and ultimately transformative) periods of my life.
As I began questioning long-held assumptions about relationships, sexuality, success, and self-worth, I realized how much of my life had been shaped by expectations I had never consciously chosen. I had become highly skilled at being who I thought I was "supposed" to be, but far less practiced at asking what I truly wanted.
That curiosity led me into conversations, communities, and experiences that challenged my understanding of intimacy, desire, and human connection. I began exploring kink, alternative relationship structures, and new approaches to embodiment—not because I was searching for something exotic, but because I was searching for something honest.
The deeper I explored, the more I realized that sexuality could be a powerful lens for understanding ourselves. Beneath questions about desire often lived questions about authenticity, boundaries, shame, vulnerability, and belonging.
What began as a personal search for healing and self-understanding eventually became the foundation for the work I do today.
Following My Curiosity
Once I started asking different questions, I found myself on an educational journey unlike any I had experienced before.
I immersed myself in the study of sexuality, relationships, desire, attachment, and embodiment. Along the way, I explored communities and perspectives that challenged many of my assumptions about intimacy and human connection. Through experiences with kink, consensual non-monogamy, somatic practices, and sacred sexuality, I discovered new ways of understanding both myself and others.
What fascinated me most was how often our struggles around sex weren't really about sex at all. Conversations about desire often revealed deeper questions about communication, shame, boundaries, self-worth, authenticity, and belonging.
As someone who has always loved learning, I wanted to understand these topics more deeply. That curiosity led me to formal training as a Somatica® intimacy coach, certification as an American Board Certified Sexologist, and continued study in Sacred Sensuality, attachment theory, somatic practices, and experiential learning.
But the most important lesson wasn't found in a certification program or a textbook.
It was the realization that meaningful transformation rarely happens through information alone. Most of us already know what we "should" do. Real change happens when we learn to listen to ourselves more honestly, reconnect with our bodies, and practice new ways of relating to ourselves and others.
That understanding became the foundation of my work—and ultimately led to the creation of Amory Wellness.
Why I Do This Work
Over the years, I've learned that most people don't come to me because they simply want better sex.
They come because they want to feel more connected—to themselves, to their partners, and to the parts of themselves they've learned to hide.
Some are navigating mismatched desire, communication challenges, or relationship transitions. Others are exploring kink, non-monogamy, body image, or questions about identity. Many arrive carrying shame, self-doubt, or the quiet fear that something about them is wrong.
I don't believe people are broken.
I believe many of us have spent years adapting to expectations that pulled us away from our own needs, desires, and authenticity. What appears to be a sexual challenge is often something much deeper: a longing to be accepted, understood, and loved for who we truly are.
My role isn't to tell people who they "should" be. It's to help them become more fully themselves.
No matter why someone walks through my door, my hope is that they leave feeling a little more safe, a little more seen, and a little more loved than when they arrived.
Through coaching, experiential learning, and compassionate exploration, I help clients reconnect with themselves, strengthen their relationships, and build lives that feel more authentic and fulfilling.
Because when we learn to meet ourselves with curiosity instead of judgment, transformation becomes possible.
Work With Me
20 min
Free
