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Love Isn’t the Same as Capacity
Love and capacity aren’t the same. What happens when our emotional needs aren’t met? Let's explore the five choices we have in those moments, and how to navigate disappointment with compassion and self-awareness.

Cat Ferris
Nov 24 min read


The Bromance Beneath the Fantasy: What Buddy Baiting and Cuckolding Reveal About Male Intimacy
What if group masturbation and cuckolding aren’t just about sex, but about men craving intimacy and connection with each other? A look at the deeper emotional undercurrents behind these misunderstood kinks.

Cat Ferris
Oct 293 min read


Swingers, Polyamorists, and the Politics of Pleasure
Why do swingers often lean conservative while polyamorous folks lean liberal? Let's explore the cultural and generational roots of the divide — and how compassion and curiosity can bridge it.

Cat Ferris
Oct 295 min read


When Limerence Meets Non-Monogamy
A raw and honest reflection on navigating limerence within ethical non-monogamy.

Cat Ferris
Oct 263 min read


When Romance is a Kink: The Magic of Comet Relationships
In polyamory circles, there’s a term for a certain kind of connection that burns bright and beautiful without becoming part of everyday...

Cat Ferris
Aug 232 min read


I Have Always Been a Wild Creature
I make love like an octopus.
(Emotionally, metaphorically… not literally. Probably.)

Cat Ferris
Jul 172 min read


Fantasy, Interrupted
How conflicting roles can block our erotic expression—and what to do about it I went to Club Kink Jacksonville this past weekend. I was...

Cat Ferris
Jun 243 min read


Ask The Sex Coach: How to Handle Judgment for Being Polyamorous
(And Whether Coming Out is Right For You) This week’s question was submitted through Instagram: “How do you deal with the potential...

Cat Ferris
Mar 203 min read


Beyond the Binary: My Polyamorous Dating Journey
Dating as a married woman comes with its own set of challenges. Add polyamory into the mix, and things get even more interesting. My...

Cat Ferris
Feb 163 min read


Embracing the Evolution of Desire: A Personal Reflection on Casual Sex and Intimacy
In a world where our emotional and physical needs are often compartmentalized, casual sex stands out as a testament to the complexity of...

Cat Ferris
May 26, 20243 min read


Casual Sex 101: How to NOT be a F*ckboy
Casual relationships can be fun, freeing, and deeply satisfying — if you handle them with care. The truth is, not everyone wants something serious all the time. But when you’re dating casually, awareness and respect go a long way. The goal isn’t to “manage” someone’s feelings — it’s to move through connection with integrity, honesty, and kindness. Understand Her Perspective A lot of women carry mixed feelings about casual sex, and it’s not because they’re confused — it’s beca

Cat Ferris
Jan 10, 20243 min read


Flirting Freely in 2024: Embracing Your Sexy Vibes
Or as my polycule puts it, "Cheers to being a ho in Twenty-Twenty Fo" As a somatic intimacy coach, I often encourage my clients to engage...

Cat Ferris
Jan 4, 20242 min read


The Mage
Some women dream of Prince Charming coming to their rescue adorned in glistening armor Building them their very own castle encircling...

Cat Ferris
Nov 11, 20231 min read


Love Across the Multiverse
As an avid enthusiast of both science fiction and fantasy, I find myself continuously drawn to stories that revolve around the intriguing...

Cat Ferris
Sep 14, 20233 min read


Unlocking Passion and Connection: Embark on a Journey with a Sex Coach
People might seek the guidance of a sex coach for a variety of reasons, as sex coaching goes beyond just physical aspects and can...

Cat Ferris
Aug 29, 20232 min read


Catching Fire
Have you ever found yourself hypnotized by a fire? How the crackling sounds echo in the stillness...the flickering of the flames drawing...

Cat Ferris
Jul 4, 20232 min read


A Fresh Lens
The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes, but in looking with new eyes. - Marcel Proust In long term...

Cat Ferris
May 10, 20231 min read
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