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Beyond the Genitals: Neck, Nerves, and the Hidden Pathways of Pleasure
A kiss on the neck can be more than foreplay — it can be a direct line to the brain. Explore how the vagus nerve opens new pathways to pleasure, healing, and full-body connection.

Cat Ferris
Nov 114 min read


In Defense of Monogamy (and How to Make It Healthy)
Learn how to build honest, secure, and passionate monogamy through communication, self-awareness, and conscious relationship agreements.

Cat Ferris
Nov 93 min read


Can You Really Be Friends With Your Ex? Science Says Yes.
Being friends with your ex isn’t a red flag. Research shows it’s often about emotional maturity, secure attachment, and love that changes form.

Cat Ferris
Nov 55 min read


When “Sisterhood” Becomes Surveillance: A Note on Toxic Monogamy Culture
A compassionate critique of toxic monogamy culture and the emotional chaos inside “vetting” groups. Why sisterhood should mean support—not surveillance.

Cat Ferris
Nov 23 min read


Why We Should All See Our Friends Naked
It’s time to stop making nudity weird. Discover how seeing real bodies—yours and your friends’—can heal body image and foster authentic self-acceptance.

Cat Ferris
Nov 13 min read


The Bromance Beneath the Fantasy: What Buddy Baiting and Cuckolding Reveal About Male Intimacy
What if group masturbation and cuckolding aren’t just about sex, but about men craving intimacy and connection with each other? A look at the deeper emotional undercurrents behind these misunderstood kinks.

Cat Ferris
Oct 293 min read


Swingers, Polyamorists, and the Politics of Pleasure
Why do swingers often lean conservative while polyamorous folks lean liberal? Let's explore the cultural and generational roots of the divide — and how compassion and curiosity can bridge it.

Cat Ferris
Oct 295 min read


When Limerence Meets Non-Monogamy
A raw and honest reflection on navigating limerence within ethical non-monogamy.

Cat Ferris
Oct 263 min read


Porn is Not the Enemy: Rethinking “Addiction”
Porn isn’t the enemy. Shame and avoidance are. Let’s rethink what ‘addiction’ really means.

Cat Ferris
Sep 33 min read


The Test Was Wrong. The Shame Was Not
I wasn’t worried when I got my latest STI screening.
I hadn't had any new unprotected partners since my last test. I trusted my body, my practices, my relationship agreements. I trusted the systems I had carefully put in place to protect my health.

Cat Ferris
Jun 244 min read


Fantasy, Interrupted
How conflicting roles can block our erotic expression—and what to do about it I went to Club Kink Jacksonville this past weekend. I was...

Cat Ferris
Jun 243 min read


Making Love to the Camera: How Erotic Play Helped Me Reclaim My Body
Photography Credit: JC Stark Photo So much of my work—and my personal mission—is rooted in body positivity. Every day, I’m in the...

Cat Ferris
May 113 min read


Ask The Sex Coach: How to Handle Judgment for Being Polyamorous
(And Whether Coming Out is Right For You) This week’s question was submitted through Instagram: “How do you deal with the potential...

Cat Ferris
Mar 203 min read


Beyond the Binary: My Polyamorous Dating Journey
Dating as a married woman comes with its own set of challenges. Add polyamory into the mix, and things get even more interesting. My...

Cat Ferris
Feb 163 min read


What's the Difference Between Sex Therapy and Sex Coaching?
When you’re looking to grow personally or deepen intimacy in your relationships, it can feel overwhelming to know where to start. Many...

Cat Ferris
Dec 15, 20243 min read


Embracing Your Sexuality
As a board-certified sexologist, many of my clients seek help resolving specific challenges in their sex lives, such as low desire,...

Cat Ferris
Jun 30, 20242 min read


The Modesty Paradox
Last week, I decided to treat myself to a new dress that I found on Amazon. When it arrived and I tried it on, I was disheartened to see...

Cat Ferris
Jun 16, 20243 min read


Why We MUST Speak Up About Sex
As a coach, mother, lover, friend, and woman, I have seen the incredible impact of having open and honest discussions about sex. It's...

Cat Ferris
Jun 9, 20243 min read


Casual Sex 101: How to NOT be a F*ckboy
Casual relationships can be fun, freeing, and deeply satisfying — if you handle them with care. The truth is, not everyone wants something serious all the time. But when you’re dating casually, awareness and respect go a long way. The goal isn’t to “manage” someone’s feelings — it’s to move through connection with integrity, honesty, and kindness. Understand Her Perspective A lot of women carry mixed feelings about casual sex, and it’s not because they’re confused — it’s beca

Cat Ferris
Jan 10, 20243 min read


Flirting Freely in 2024: Embracing Your Sexy Vibes
Or as my polycule puts it, "Cheers to being a ho in Twenty-Twenty Fo" As a somatic intimacy coach, I often encourage my clients to engage...

Cat Ferris
Jan 4, 20242 min read
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